There may be a moment when you recognize that the way you’re getting through your day isn’t really serving you anymore. And yet, you stay with it, simply because it's a habit – it is what your system knows and is comfortable with – it’s what feels safe, because you know what you get. Even when we are aware that a pattern may not be the best for us, our brain holds us back from change. It makes us wary or skeptical of doing something that we think will benefit us, because there is a chance that doing something different may leave us worse off, even if that chance is very small. This is so much a part of how the human brain works that it has a name - loss aversion.    

Despite being common, this disconnect can create barriers to taking actions that will help. For many people navigating post-infection symptoms or trying to rebuild resilience, this can even feel confusing - especially when part of you is ready to do anything to feel better. If what you are doing now isn’t leading to the results you want, it should be straightforward to change to something else. At least, that’s what seems to be logical from the outside. But the protective side of your brain feels differently. When your body is under extra stress, those protective mechanisms in your brain can be even stronger than usual. 

Before the brain considers supporting a change, it often looks for signs that something is safe and predictable. The brain is always asking what it can predict and wants to reduce uncertainty. When something is predictable, the whole brain-body system can prepare for it. And when it can prepare, it uses less energy than when it needs to figure out what might happen next.

Knowing this becomes especially important when energy already feels limited. When capacity is reduced, the brain and body often become even more selective about where they spend resources. Familiar patterns may not be ideal, but they require less processing than constantly adapting to something new.

Familiar patterns, even the ones that don’t move you forward, come with a sense of predictability. The body knows how they unfold, and there’s less to process and less to adjust to. For a system that may already feel stretched, that can be enough reason to stay with what is known.

Familiarity isn't the enemy. It allows us to move through life without having to think through every decision from scratch. The challenge comes when old patterns continue long after they have stopped serving us. This is where familiar and effective start to separate.

Over time, what you repeat begins to feel right. Not because it leads to the best outcome, but because it doesn’t introduce anything new. It doesn’t ask for extra effort or attention, and it doesn’t create uncertainty. This is all good. Still, when we want something to change, we still need a change.

When a different option shows up

• a small change in pacing,
• a simple shift in how you start your day, 
• a new way of approaching movement or recovery.

It can feel like more than just a choice or opportunity. It can feel like added demand. This doesn’t necessarily mean something negative, it is just something unknown, and unknown requires a little more energy at first. 

What can look like an obvious win and like a simple decision from the outside, isn’t as straightforward from the inside. Choosing to make changes to a routine or start something new that can help is challenged by the brain's unconscious urge to protect - it works to predict the possible difference in outcome between the familiar and the unclear result from something new. That’s why the paths that are most familiar often win; not because they are better, but because they are clearer for the system to predict the outcome and feel comfortable with the option.  

Over time, something else happens. Familiarity begins to carry weight. The longer something has been part of your routine, the more it starts to feel like proof: “This is what we do. This is what has worked so far. This is what’s safe enough.”

This doesn’t mean it’s optimal, but you may not have had a big enough prompt, trigger, or reason to change, yet. Once something feels “good enough,” it often stops being questioned, which isn’t a conscious decision. It’s a quiet settling into what the system can predict. This is often where progress slows without it being obvious why.

Understanding this dynamic can change the way we think about change itself. That hesitation you may feel is normal – it is your body and brain working to protect itself, even if it isn’t fully rational. Being open to something new isn't simply a matter of willpower. It is a skill that can be practiced. The brain often needs enough evidence of safety before it is willing to invest energy in something unfamiliar. The goal is moving away from pushing harder or trying to force something new, but toward creating conditions where something different can actually be used, safely.

Change doesn’t need to be big to be meaningful. Especially when capacity and energy is limited, smaller shifts tend to work better.

Sometimes it starts with a simple question, asked without pressure:

Am I making a choice based on the best option right now, or on what my system already knows? Often, just noticing this can be enough to create a small amount of space that can make the difference in next decisions. 

Recovery is not built on force and resilience. It is not built by forcing change. We want to make change feel possible by giving the brain and body enough stability that something new doesn’t feel like too much, unsafe, or totally unpredictable.

Then new options don’t have to compete with what’s familiar, they can become familiar themselves, one step at a time. By using the right tools in a way that provides safety for the brain, you not only benefit from using the tool itself, but your brain also becomes more comfortable with further changes.  

And that’s usually where things start to shift. 

Warmly,
Katie & Andrea

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